I love you...
I love those shoes
I love the Kardashians
I love ice cream
What is love? I have had someone tell me that the loved me. I have even said that I loved someone. I love so many things, but do I mean it? Do they mean it? What is love?
Honestly, I truly don't think I know what love is. This is beyond the "God is love" that they teach us in Sunday School. I am talking about pure, not what you see on television, different from the love mother and father gave me, or the type of love my friends give me. No, I am talking about true love. And this love doesn't have to be with another person.
While sipping my very tasteless water and eating an orange, I was thinking....when do I tell myself that I love me? Does that sound strange? Think about it for a minute. You tell everyone else that you love them, but when do you say that you ....love you? This is so thought provoking. When I thought about it, I thought I made some kind of emotional break through as a therapist. Yes, the "Golden Rule" is to "Love thy neighbor as thyself" (Mark 12:31) or "To treat others as you would have them to treat you", but why isn't there a rule that just says "LOVE YOURSELF"
Is the sole reason why we don't say that we love us is because it is deemed selfish? What is so wrong with loving yourself? I remember someone in my past telling me that, "I love you more than I love myself". I remember looking at him and saying "Don't, that's not right." You should be selfish and love yourself more." But why hadn't I taken my own advice.
As I look at my natural hair growing, I am learning to look at me. I am learning to see myself for who I am. Its just so odd how all women are being stigmatized into changing themselves in order to fit a cookie cutter idea of what they are suppose to be instead of who they are. Black women are stigmatized by society that long straight locks and light skin are the root to beauty. Women size twelve and up are inundated with pictures of anorexic models and weight loss commercials. White women are badgered with botox, face lifts, and breast implants. Men are competing against time with Viagra, hair implants, and young men. It's a dog eat dog world.
So, this evening, I am going to start telling myself...as I tell other..that I love me. And I am going to mean it. I love my smile, I love my laugh, I love my goofy giggle, I love my hair. I LOVE ME. No one can love me better than I love myself. No one can love me until I love myself.
Love yourself today..try it. It may seem strange at first, but try it.
Today's regime (before bed)
Go to bed at 9:30pm
Look in the mirror and say (I am beautiful)
Olive oil the hair
Take Vitamin E (Good for skin in winter weather)
Drink a glass of water
Say prayers and mediate..Thank God :-)
Say that I love YOU ALL.and then save the best for last...THAT I LOVE ME
