So, I am a single girl sporting a TWA..and I am wondering....
Are there men out and about in the world who don't mind a woman sporting a TWA (teeny weeny afro), big chop, or any other assorted natural hair style? I sometimes wonder what the men folk think when their woman walks up to them, hand on hip, and says, "I want to go natural?". I just wonder what goes through their mind? Is it, "Oh no, I can't handle a bald girl on my arm" or " I can't run my hands through it" and " NAPS....uhm baby..no". Or is it, "Oh, wow I can't wait to see this", "I love you no matter what you look like." or " Go head my Nubian Queen..THROW, GROW, and SHOW your FRO!" Anyway, I know my imagination is really bad, but I can only wonder what goes on in the male psyche .
Which me would you date?
Lace Wig Me
Relaxed Me
Natural Me
So, do men prefer fake over real? Does it matter?
When I wore wigs and weaves, I wore them because I was told that I was more attractive with longer hair. Also, society has ingrained that long hair is feminine and short hair was masculine. But I hated wearing them. I hated the odor, the itchiness, the glue, the fact that it could pull out your hair, the waste of money....and yet I did it. And though I was considered attractive, I knew at times it wasn't attractive. The fact that it wasn't "real" wasn't attractive. The fact that I could take it off wasn't attractive.
Please, don't hate on me...I am not putting down wigs or extensions. If you can flaunt and rock them, then do it. I use to and will probably be using synthetic hair to get my hair braided once it is long enough. But what I am trying to relay is...is all that we are doing to our hair....is it even attractive? Is it appealing? Is it worth it?
I do see a lot of natural love out there. Black men and women who have found natural peace with each other and supporting each other through this journey. Inter-racial natural relationship that have bloomed, been accepting, and grown beautifully. And don't forget my LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender) naturals who are rocking the naturalness all over and being proud of their love.
But I guess...and hope that maybe someone can look at me for me. Like me for me. Not look at old pics of me or have an idea of what I should look like and say I should reconsider that look. Nope, don't want that. Been there, done that. I hope to be blessed with someone that can embrace the growing, changing, healthy, in-tuned balanced person that I am developing into each and everyday. The new me. The blooming me. The natural me. Someone who is comfortable with little ole 5ft 4in me the way that I am as I am with myself.
Lost Girl...Out...
